The goal of parenting is to have kids who love Christ.
The goal of the Christian life is dependence on God.
He answered: "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'" Luke 10:27
I know that I must turn over my will to God. I have learned to live like this. Constantly turning my will over but then taking it back and thinking I am in control. Realizing again that I am not in control and turning it back over. Where I really struggle with this is with my children. I want to be in control. Not control as in obedience to rules (I don't have control of that either) but control of their friends, what they like, and what they are good at. Basically all of the things that define your personality. It's hard to let go and let them be who they are going to be. You assume, based on your interests and your spouse's, that your kids will like what you like. Guess what? They don't! I think before you have kids you have a vision of what their lives will look like and it's totally based on what you like. When I want my people to do things just because I like it and they are not enjoying themselves or struggling with something that was easy for me, it is hard not to be disappointed. Jason and I like the same things so shouldn't our kids like them too? Nope. Shouldn't they be good at the same things we do well? Nope. So when I want my kids to be something they aren't, I have to turn back to the ultimate goal. I want my kids to love God with all of their heart, soul, strength, and mind. The rest of the stuff is my will. But I still don't want to play Bakugans.
Along the same line from a wise Mama. On Different Priorities